Chapter 12 – The Birth — 27 Comments

  1. I really enjoyed your latest chapter! It is impressive to me that you made the transition from not wanting to experience childbirth to jumping right in to the intensity of a Lamaze delivery. While I always expected to have children, I also was determined to use the Lamaze method, and did for each of my five kids, and one miscarriage. We have so much in common! My first child, born in 1969, is also named Rachel. I always felt it was some of the hardest work of my life, but so rewarding to truly experience labor and delivery. My doctor told me I was smart to have studied Lamaze techniques, because since she was a month premature, he would not give an anesthetic. I got plenty of use from those techniques!

    • At the time, it just seemed the natural route to take, but looking back, I really wonder how my attitude changed so much. That’s why I say it’s pretty much a God-thing!!! And I’m so impressed that you did Lamaze in 1969. Good for you! Rachel? Really? We do have a lot in common. And someone was looking out for you, too, being prepared for the un-anesthetized birth of a preemie! Thanks for sharing!

  2. I loved your writeup Thank You,. During this Christmas season, it it wonderful to celebrate life. Mary (and I ) birthed 4 children using Lamaze. I did not leave her bedside, but she did tell me “FORGET YOUR SHOES” when we were leaving the house to have our third child.

  3. damn that rocked. tmi but rocked. In my time I been in many delivery rooms only a handful of naturals. All were earth mother types as well.

    Side bar… this cancer battler needs a little more prayer, thanks.

  4. Loved it. Well written and your love for your daughter and family stands out. I had my daughter naturally almost. After having the water break before any contractions at 4 am, I was in labor until after 2 pm. During the last half of the actually delivery, they gave me a shot in the arm of some type of pain meds. Kind of late. 🙂 Hubby needed it more, he whacked his head when he zoned out. Second child was a risky birth so, I went all natural with him.

    Blu, my prayers for you.

    • Hubby needed it more? LOL!!!! They’re such weaklings, aren’t they? 🙂 I don’t know if you had prepared for all those hours of intense labor, but I can assure you that those breathing techniques really did work for me!!! (Put Blu on the prayer chain at church, ok?)

  5. Good for you, standing your ground about having natural childbirth. I know you really had to dig in your heels, considering the prevailing attitudes of the medical profession of the time. You were riding the wave that carried women out of the Land of the Epidurals and back to what the experience should be.

    Not that I have much room to talk about childbirth, never having had children, but I would have gone the same route you did, if I had. It was something that we just never got around to and I have had my moments of ‘what if.’

    I did have to laugh while reading this, though. I’ve heard SO many stories from friends and family who have gone through this amazing experience and, while some of it isn’t funny at the time, it does make for some great stories later.

    The Captain stopped to get donuts for the nurses? How many were left in the bag, when he got there? lol

    When my Mama called my Dad at work to tell him that I was on the way, (this was before the days of ultrasounds and knowing your baby’s sex) he said he would be there as soon as he could. Thirty minutes later, he hasn’t shown up yet. She called back. “I’ll be there as soon as I can.” When he did get home, Mama hid and the neighbor told him she’d already gone to the hospital!

    Where had he been? Out behind the shop, playing a game of half rubber with the guys from work.

    They both finally quit playing games and headed to St. Francis for my arrival. I was a typical first baby, showing up until about 12 hours later, at 5 something the next morning.

    Blu, you’re in my thoughts and prayers, hon.

      • Yup, I was born in the era of anesthesia, forceps and C-sections galore. I doubt my Mama and her obstetrician even thought about natural childbirth. Both my brother and I were C-section babies.

        They kept women in the hospital for a week after birth and on restricted activity for a good two weeks after that.

        Now, they’re lucky if they aren’t sent home less than 24 hours after birth. IMHO, I don’t agree with that for first time mothers. I think 36 to 48 hours is better. Just in case. Make sure mom and baby are good and both of them know what to do. There are some issues that can arise with newborns in the first day or two (such as jaundice) and new mothers don’t have the knowledge or experience to assess possible problems.

        Half rubber is a game of ball that is very popular here in the Lowcountry; It is played using a broom stick (minus the broom part) and a hard rubber ball that has been cut in half.

        We even have tournaments:

        • DoVi was jaundiced when I got her home, so I put her by the window and let the sun shine on her body to help her get over it.

          It’s so odd that I’ve never heard the name of that sport, and they even have tournaments! Wow! Thanks for the informative links! How fun!

    • Thanks so much, Louise. I’m glad you enjoyed the story. I took my job as a mother very seriously. My youngest (17) recently offended me by saying, “I think you’re a good parent, but I think you try too hard.” I was crushed. He really hurt my feelings, but I had to remind myself that was coming from a rebellious teen who has given me more trouble than the other four put together. I’m too old for this . . . . . I should be about to retire, rocking grand babies. Instead, I’m trying to punish a strong-willed ungrateful 17 year old. I have friends with grandkids his age. Sheesh. (That’s what happens when you have a late-life “surprise” baby!) HELP!!!!!

      • Teenage years sometimes get the best of us. But, you know what? It is all worth it when one of them grows up and comes to you and says “Mom, how in the world did you do it?” 🙂 You know then that you did it right.

  6. He’s saying “hard” now, but he’ll be saying thanks later on.
    A little story here…Hubby and I attended “Open House” (our oldest son was a senior). When we introduced ourselves to 1st son’s Chemistry teacher, his eyes lit up and said “It’s a pleasure to meet Ascension Parish’s strictest parents, y’all are doing a wonderful job with your boys (daughter was still in middle school). Long story short… I now see 1st son doing and saying some of the same things.
    He’ll learn…my house, my rules.

  7. When I got to the doughnuts, I laughed out loud. I remember Mom telling me she was in the hospital for over a week after I was born – just amazing. Of course, now we sometimes have the opposite problem, with insurance companies trying to shove people out as soon as they can – not just for childbirth, but for anything.

    I had a friend who once got into a shouting match with her ob/gyn. I can’t remember the whole story now, but I do remember her clinching line. She yelled at him, “For &$^#@ sake! Having a baby isn’t a disease!”

    That pretty much says it all, I’d think.

  8. Oh my little first guy in delivery room story. No one was assigned to watch papa. He fainted fell dead away was in hospital for a week. Next time extra aide brought in. 🙂

    Thank you for circle. Geometrically I lean toward square but have radical outside. Keep smiling.

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